1. Let's start off with introductions- tell us a little about yourself and
about your blog. How did you get started blogging? How did you get your
blogging name?
Hello! My name is Amanda but you can call me Lola. I am a 25 year old, married woman living in Pittsburgh with my husband and two fur babies. I started blogging honestly.just for an outlet. Also for a community when I was feeling alone and really struggling with my anxiety. I am sliding into my 3rd month of blogging and I just love it. I've already seen such a huge change in myself and I'm so excited for this journey. As far as my blog name goes, the name Lola is a nickname given to me out of the blue by my husbands cousin when she was about three. It just stuck. Then I like the idea of a 'lane' as a route to get somewhere and I'm just all about love. Self love and love for others.
2. You've been married for a few years and you share a lot of your story about being married to a transman. How do you think sharing your story has helped you? (I personally know sharing my story about my spinal cord injury has helped me cope a lot... those are two different things though but I love hearing how blogging / writing has made someone grow)
I think that sharing that story, although really there is so much to it that it will take many blog chapters for the story to be told, was absolutely empowering. I got a lot of great feeback, ALL of which was supportive. It's something that I'm so incredibly proud of. I'm proud of his strength, I'm proud of our journey and I'm proud of the people that surround us. It is a lot different and also similar in some ways from your injury, Sabrina. A lot of up and downs to say the least but getting back up makes us the heros :)
3. What were the reactions of others? Do you talk about it as openly outside of your blog?
Well, I will honestly tell anyone who wants to know. Kaleb is pretty open about it as well. However, there is a level of safety that needs to be kept in our society unfortunately so it's not something we would go screaming running down the street or tell a new co-worker without feeling it out. However, on my blog, I felt safe. It was also something that I wanted out there, so it didn't have to be the elephant in the room. As far a peoples reactions, we have been lucky enough to never have a horrible reaction. People who don't approve, usually just go about their business and choose not to talk to us. Their loss.
4. What is your BEST marriage advice?
Wow! Well, we will be married for 3 years in August and together 8 years at the end of this month! Although that's not and eternity, I think it's long enough to know that two things ring true. Always, always pick your battles. I learned a long time ago that blowing my top of Kaleb leaving his clothes on the floor is never going to change him. Even though it makes me cringe. On the same coin, him losing it about me putting the cracked eggs back in the carton isn't going to make me stop doing it. Don't spend your time fighting over the little things. Just let those go. Also, I would have to say never stop 'dating' each other. Me and Kaleb have honestly made it this far because we still hold hand, all the time. We still go on movie dates, he still opens the door and I love to get dressed up, even just for him.
5. Besides blogging, what other hobbies do you have?
I really love to cook. I can't wait to get some recipes up on the blog in 2015! Besides that? I love to scrapbook, drink coffee, watch movies, and take cat naps.
Hello! My name is Amanda but you can call me Lola. I am a 25 year old, married woman living in Pittsburgh with my husband and two fur babies. I started blogging honestly.just for an outlet. Also for a community when I was feeling alone and really struggling with my anxiety. I am sliding into my 3rd month of blogging and I just love it. I've already seen such a huge change in myself and I'm so excited for this journey. As far as my blog name goes, the name Lola is a nickname given to me out of the blue by my husbands cousin when she was about three. It just stuck. Then I like the idea of a 'lane' as a route to get somewhere and I'm just all about love. Self love and love for others.
2. You've been married for a few years and you share a lot of your story about being married to a transman. How do you think sharing your story has helped you? (I personally know sharing my story about my spinal cord injury has helped me cope a lot... those are two different things though but I love hearing how blogging / writing has made someone grow)
I think that sharing that story, although really there is so much to it that it will take many blog chapters for the story to be told, was absolutely empowering. I got a lot of great feeback, ALL of which was supportive. It's something that I'm so incredibly proud of. I'm proud of his strength, I'm proud of our journey and I'm proud of the people that surround us. It is a lot different and also similar in some ways from your injury, Sabrina. A lot of up and downs to say the least but getting back up makes us the heros :)
3. What were the reactions of others? Do you talk about it as openly outside of your blog?
Well, I will honestly tell anyone who wants to know. Kaleb is pretty open about it as well. However, there is a level of safety that needs to be kept in our society unfortunately so it's not something we would go screaming running down the street or tell a new co-worker without feeling it out. However, on my blog, I felt safe. It was also something that I wanted out there, so it didn't have to be the elephant in the room. As far a peoples reactions, we have been lucky enough to never have a horrible reaction. People who don't approve, usually just go about their business and choose not to talk to us. Their loss.
4. What is your BEST marriage advice?
Wow! Well, we will be married for 3 years in August and together 8 years at the end of this month! Although that's not and eternity, I think it's long enough to know that two things ring true. Always, always pick your battles. I learned a long time ago that blowing my top of Kaleb leaving his clothes on the floor is never going to change him. Even though it makes me cringe. On the same coin, him losing it about me putting the cracked eggs back in the carton isn't going to make me stop doing it. Don't spend your time fighting over the little things. Just let those go. Also, I would have to say never stop 'dating' each other. Me and Kaleb have honestly made it this far because we still hold hand, all the time. We still go on movie dates, he still opens the door and I love to get dressed up, even just for him.
5. Besides blogging, what other hobbies do you have?
I really love to cook. I can't wait to get some recipes up on the blog in 2015! Besides that? I love to scrapbook, drink coffee, watch movies, and take cat naps.
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